Friends and Beyond

Old Schools Friends Can Still Be Good Friends

Even after many years people who have not spoken for years run back into each other and find there is so much to talk about.  But sometimes because of the time, distance and chains of circumstances there is a hesitation to share. This comes from a fear of what the other might think if the circumstances were not favorable.  The good news is that no matter how far the two have been apart or the geographic distance between them, some things like a real frendship never change.  So sharing each other's memories with just a little getting recquainted, flows easily.  Before you know it they are laughing at the funny things, supporting the things that are sad or hurtful and enjoying a experience many avoid for fear of what the other might think.  High school reunions are often an instigator of such a instance in people's lives.  when this des happen, embrace the opportunity to get reacquainted and build on the foundation of the friendship for future communication.  With patience, a solid loyalty and sense of security is established and you will be amaed at how quickly years and distance are shortened and a harbor of friendship is recreated for eveyone involved.  So if you fall into tis situation don't be afraid to trust the friendship that once was as being a friendshiop that still is.

Is It Your Story Or Their Story

Have you noticed that at times you may get upset for a friend or family member only to find out that the occurrence or situation really was not a problem to them as much as it was to you.  Many times we get caught up in a communication gap and are bent out of shape for someone else when really it is something we need to deal with ourselves.  We think we are displaying loylty when in actuality it is our own story we are not will to acknowledge.  We are really the ones who have the issue and project the unwillingness to face it onto someone else.  This is usually friends or family.  We say they ar uspset when really it is ourself that is upset.  Have patience though because as soon as we begin to aknowledge that is is our story we can then recognized when smeone else is project in the same way as well.  We can the remind them that the story is theirs and not yours.  This way you will not get caught up in someone else's drama and prevent from getting others caught up in yours.  This then hls to reshape our attitude and and the attitude or those around us.  When you take ownership of your own story, you then can make adjustments to either continue or change the story that you have.  We then become rsponsible for the outcome of our daily lives.

Do You Know Who Your Friends Are?

Just recently someone I know was involved in a near head on auto collision.  Not only is an event like this traumatic, but you find out who your friends really are.  She was transported by ambulance to a hospital which means everything handled at the accident site was handle by someone else.  She needed a ride home and here is where she learned who were friends in her life.  One girl changed a doctor's appointment and with her baby came to pick her up at the hospital to take her home.  One girl met her at the house and took her to lunch, to try to retreive the personal belongings from the car and get a rental.  One spent time on the computer doing research since the driver responsible for the accident did not give proper insurance information. One has been in touch from California to keep spirits up and encourage when reality gets a little heavy.  Today, a friend's husband offered to help get another car since the other vehicle was totaled.  These people have lives of their own but have taken time out to lend a helping hand in whatever way they could.  These are truly the kind of friends that bless another in need.  Their generosity, loyalty and patience is something that we should hope shows in our life when someone we know and care about is in need.  Do you know who your friends are.  Don't let a situation like this happen before you find out who is an acquaintance and who is a friend.  Then show them your loyalty, generosity and friendship on a regular basis.  It is nice to know who your friends really are when the chips are down.