Within the first few moments of meeting someone of the opposite sex some people are probably thinking "I hope he/she is not a jerk like all the others". If you think of early love like a flower, often the petals are crushed when one or the other unknowingly does or says something that will turn the other person off. Later in a blooming relationship the same blooper can happen and might not offer any more that an uncomfortable spot then they move on. There are fatal bloopers that happen on the first date and can gnaw away at the early relationship.
First and foremost always remember the men and women DO communicate differently. They also talk about different subjects that tend to be gender related. Men tend to like to talk about sports, cars, how things work and how they can fix things. Women however like to talk about people, their problems, art, spiritual and personal growth. When a man or a woman learn a little about the interests of the opposite person, they can learn how to better communicate early in the in the dating process. I'm Getting To Know You is a great place to get suggestions on questions you should ask when first entering into a new relationship. When you keep these in mind, the liklihood of the relationship moving to the next level is probable.
It is not a good idea to talk about feelings early in the relationship development. Women don't really mind however men will shrug the subject off as irrelevant. Unless you are with someone rare who likes to discuss gender related subjects, it is advisable to avoid and save feelings related conversation until later in the relationship.
Another major difference between male and female communications is that men will not ask for directions and women find the first person to ask when she is in unfamiliar territory. Consequently, if in fact directions are asked then a male just want the facts with no added hoopla where as a woman wants to hear about all the stuff along the way. It happens the same way when men and women give directions. Men will give just the facts and women will give a low down on the sites you will see along the way.
One additional situation that is differently communicated by a man or a woman is when trials and tribulations arise. Men would prefer to be left alone to sort through their problems. Their male friends most likely will just tell him things will work out. If a woman just does the same and keeps her mouth shut, then she will become his refuge from the storm when it blows over instead of a part of it. On the other hand a woman will get hurts feelings if a man does not ask her if she would like to talk about what ever it is that is bothering her. She does not need anyone to fix her situation she just wants to vent. So men it is advisable to just listen. Just simply listen. When she is done she will feel so much better and so will you.
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