if you know anything about the way men and women communication you know that they do not do so in the same way. Especially when they are under stress. Women tend to become emotional and seemingly overwhelmed. Men on the other hand become more withdrawn and focused. The friction comes when a women feels much better by talking about problems but her male counterpart likes to solve the problem to feel better.
Men do not like to talk about what is bothering him. He prefers to be quiet and somewhat secluded and prefers to be alone while he is figuring out who to take care of what seems to be the problem. When he feels he has the solution, he can them find comfort and become more social. Unfortunately when he can figure things out he will do other things like read the newspaper or something else that will take his mind off the problem at hand.
Women however, needs to talk about what is bothering here and the more she talks the better she feels. Have you ever noticed that a women can talk about the same things several times during a conversation? Women share their feelings and frustrations and in doing so feel less burdened. There is a certain trust among women that create relationships and community when they can talk about their day, their kids, job and relationship or lack of.
Situations and misunderstandings arise when neither men or women realize that with communication they are not on the same page all the time. When men learn how to listen to women talking about their problems it can actually help them control the need to be alone. They realize that the problems are not their fault and therefore do not need fixing. And when women can learn to ask for the attention of a man it helps men to feel more accepted and less likely to find the need for seclusion. With these understandings, the communication gap between the two becomes smaller and easier to manage. The two can share in a way that is suitable to both an be happier in the long run.
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