With the new movie out "He's just not that into you" I was reminded about how often ladies deal with this issue sometimes on a daily basis. Not too long ago a friend of mine wanted me to meet a man that came into the restaurant where she tended bar. I agreed and she through a casual conversation told him about me and after some thought he called her with his phones numbers to give to me. (First Indicator) A day or two went by and I finally did call and set up a time to have a cocktail and share some conversation. The get together went well and the gentlman told me that he would call me by the end of the weekend. It was at this time Tuesday. Well the weekend came and went without a call. As nice as he was, one thing came to my mind. He just wasn't that interested and that was OK. I am quite a busy girl anyway.
Well.....my friend after sometime decided that I should call him and tell him I was thinking of him. I told her NO. If this man had an interest in me then he would have called regardless. She proceeded to tell me that times have changed and I was thinking old fashion. I tried to explain that as old fashion as it may seem, men are warriors and will fight armies to get the attention of a woman that has caught his fancy. There are not enough excuses in the book to explain away that when you do not do what you say you are going to do you lose trust and that is not a very good foundation for the future.
So ladies, refrain from picking up the phone and calling a guy just because you think it will help create a relationship because it will not. And remember a drink is not a date and two or three dates does not make him your boyfriend. I guess the old saying does go for us, Girls, lighten up and get a life. If he is interested he will come running. you can count on it. If not.... then keep moving.
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