Friends and Beyond

Does Love At First Sight Really Exist?

This is a question asked by many who seek a relationship.  Immediate desire and /or ust at one's first sight does exist.  However, the world pretty much agrees that love at first sight is not a relavent expressin for an actual feeling.  Love at first sight is more classified as infatuation than love.  One simple fact remains that can kick start love is that your first moves when you see a possible future love are crucial.   if in fact love does grow from the initial encounter then you could call it love at first sight.  There will be no arguments to that issue.  But if it does not.....then what do you cal the encounter?  The term Love at First Sight is a significant part of the popular belief of many.  But it truely exists for those who choose to believe it. 

Creating A Win-Win Communication

Whether you are trying to improve a personal relationship or enhance a business relationship, communication is a key element in accomplishing a win win situation.  There is a proccess called And Then Some that s very effective in establishing a win win environment.  The people involved must be mature enough and open to feedback.  The more common excuses used to avoid this process are,"This is dumb" or "I'm too busy" or "My friend,wife, husband would never do that."  Here is how the process works.

At the end of a week one person will ask the other "On a scale of one to ten, how would you rate my performance as a (?) last week?"  The key is to listen with an open mind and pause before there is any response.  If the answer is not a ten the next question will be, "What wuld I need to improv my score or make it a ten?"  The next key is to listen again and utilize the information to improve on te next week.

This makes us more aware of where we may be falling short of fullfilling all that we can be.  However, too often people get offend and take the answers negatively which will short circuit possible improvement in their lives for the future.  If you accept the imformation you receive as a gift, it can help you become more trustworthy and genuine.  It is true that sometimes the truth hurts but sometimes it is necessary to swallow a little pride to enjoy the benefit that follow.

Love Is A Not Automatic, It Is Learned

Love, itself is a learned response.  And how a person learns to love is in direct relationship to the environment in which he or she is raised and by who they were taught.  More people behave as if love were something that remains dormant inside until some magical thing happens to cause it to bloom.  Many people spend lifetimes trying to find love.  To some love is not something to think about but just something to experience.  In some small degree all of these statements carry an element of truth.  But none of them is the whole truth. 

If a person wanted to be something in specific like an actor or attorney they would have to study to learn how to be either.  A child at birth does not know anything about love.  As the child grows, the world around him and the people he or she is involved with ustimately teach them about love and what it means.  Love is not only an emotion but a response to an emotion.  When this child grows into an adult, the way he loves and accepts love is based on what he has been taught.  So as a professional learns and perfects a trade so must a person to truely understand the multi-facets of love.  Don't cut yourself short on experiencing the fullness of love by limiting yourself to only the things you learned during childhood. Only when we choose to communicate and learn how to love and be loved, then we will experience more of its fullness.