Friends and Beyond

Don't Sweat The Small Stuff

How many times have you gone through a day and gotten all frustrated with people who did not see your point of view?  It is amazing how our patience gets tested which effects the outcome of our day.  We over react and blow things out of proportion.  In all this turmoil we lose sight of the bigger picture. Things that could be a positive turn into a negative.  Pretty soon everything is a big deal.   A change of attitude can make a big difference when we realize that what is important to you may not be as important to someone else.  When you put this into perspective, it's amazing how quickly things become more managable and the stress level decreases.  Understanding that not everyone, everytime will see eye to eye, just stop jumping to conclusions and avoid taking things too personally.  Including other people's problems. Life is too short to Sweat the Small Stuff.

The Power of Praise

As we go through our daily life it is amazing how many times we have an opportunity to give another praise but do not.  Whether it be your friend, your special someone, your children or even a coworker or stranger, everyone gets even a little lift for their day from a word of praise.  Think of how you feel when someone notices and tells you about a new garment you are wearing and lets you know how nice you look.  Or the smile you receive when you tell someone what a great job they did on a particular project.  You get tons more milege from a positive word.  People are more likely to extend themselves more and more often when they know that they are appreciated.  Even a pat on the back for trying one time can lead to a success the next time.  Make a point of finding opportunities to lift a heart or create a smile by a simple word of       praise              Bonnie Holscher

Receiving Gifts

Recently a friend of mine had a birthday and had concerns about her friends giving her expensive gifts.  These friends also took her out to eat or arranged a dinner at her home. She was disappointed that she could not do the same for them and had a difficult time accepting their generosity.  She did not realize that the Laws of Attraction apply and that her friends were able to attract wealth by being generous in their giving.  That giving gave her friends great joy to see her happy.  By not accepting the gift she would have taken away the blessings her friends would receive by giving the gifts.  When she realized this she became filled with a peace and joy she might not have experienced.  When someone gives you a gift it is given with the heart.  Learn how to be a good receiver.

Say What You Mean

There are times when misunderstandings arise and one or the other person does not realize that what he or she said was not heard by the other person in the same way.  I'm sure there are times when someone said something to you and you heard the words differently than what the person actually said.  An easy way to keep from having hurt feelings or be offended is to repeat the remarks made and ask the person you are talking to if it is what they meant.  It is surprising how many times the answer you recieve is "No, that is not what I said" or "That's not what I meant".  This little moment to clarify the conversation can save many moments of anger, hurt, disappointment or other feelings from someone who is close to you or even a business relation.  "An injury is much sooner forgotten than an insult".  When a person is put on the defensibe they become a poor listener.  Before you react, clarify the words or the intent.  It can save countless moments of uncertainty or bad feelings.